Christmas Once Again

Yay! Christmas! My favorite time of the year! And Kirstin likes it too...she'll say..."Mommy, pretty lights!" Makes my face light up, I tell you!

What's different this year is we decided to put up our tree so she could help decorate it. It went well except she dropped one of the designer glass ornaments. Eekkk! But it's ok, things like that happen and I'm sure will happen again. I wonder what she will break next! Hehe! The important thing is, she didn't get hurt! And I think our tree looked really great! =)

Bates' Christmas Party

Our company's christmas party is always a fun event for me and Kurt. It's our day-off! Haha! Not that we don't enjoy watching Kirstin but it helps to keep us sane. We didn't have to worry about her. For a couple of hours anyway! Haha!

Kid's Health: Sweet Treatment

It's that time of the year when viruses are in the air! =) So here's a tip that may be helpful to you during this flu season.

(By Rachel Rabkin Pechman)

If your child has a cough, try giving him honey before bed - it may cut down on nighttime hacking (according to a study in the Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine).

This is good news since traditional cough meds are no longer advised for kids ages 6 and younger. The thick syrup coats and soothes the back of the throat, while the sweet taste causes salivation, which thins mucus and reduced the urge to cough. Honey's antioxidants may even help the body fend off nasty cold bugs, thereby alleviating cold symptoms, says Ian Paul, M.D., lead study author.

For kids ages 1 to 5, start with half a teaspoon (don't mix the honey in tea - this could dilute its effect), and for those 6 and up, offer one teaspoon. Feel free to re-dose as often as needed, but remember: Never give honey to children under 1 because in rare cases it can cause infantile botulism.

What's New at 15 months

It's fun to report how she's developing at this age because there's always something new everyday! She's now 15 months and she has developed her fine motor skills: she's able to open, take apart, turn the pages of her book one at a time and put together more things than I thought possible. Crayons, utensils, combs, bath sponge, and toothbrush are some of the tools she tries to use. And she's determined to do it just right. She has been able to hold her crayons correctly from the very first time we gave them to her when she was one! She must have been observing Daddy while he works in his office! Haha! She's able to feed herself now. She creates a mess though but a bib and a mat underneath her highchair takes care of that. Hehe! As for the comb, the bath sponge and the toothbrush, she still needs reinforcement when using them.

Also, I have noticed that stopping an activity is a very painful experience for Kirstin now. But I learned when I was reading this entertainment magazine and read about Brad Pitt's experience with Maddox, that it's a good idea to give your child a warning if you need to stop him/her from the activity he/she is doing so he/she won't get caught by surprise. That's what I did and it worked! Thanks Brad Pitt! Muaahhh! Hehe! I always give advance notice to Kirstin of an upcoming transition and some help changing gears. That makes things easier for me.

By the way, it's the first time Kirstin went for her check-up and the nurse made her stand up on the scale so they could measure her height and her weight! Awww...she's not a baby anymore! It's so cool though because she did everything the doctor told her to do. She's really a good girl! (Can you tell I'm the mommy? Hehe!)

Trick or Treat!

Halloween is something we always celebrate in our office and I, oftentimes, organize it. We allow people to bring their kids in and do their usual trick or treat! This year, I decided to have a theme for the halloween. Kirstin dressed up as a leopard and I dressed up as a Safari girl. We ended up winning "The Most Original Costume" category! Thanks to Melds for suggesting that idea!

A-B-Cs, 1-2-3s and others

First of all, shoutout to myself! Happy birthday to me! Hehe! We celebrated by having dinner at Cheesecake Factory! I love the food there and the cheesecake, of course!

Kirstin turned 14 months too! And at this age, she's starting to show her personality! I think she's funny! She gets her Uncle Cris' and her daddy's silly jokes! She'd laugh at them! But of course, just like mommy, she likes to sing! She learned her ABC's by humming the tune at first and then eventually, she'd try to say the letters. It's gibberish still but it works for me! Hehe! The rythm and repetition of songs make things easy to remember. That's how she learned her 1-2-3s too because she has this laugh and learn bunny with silly sing-along songs that keeps her interested.

Another thing that she's fond of playing is the body parts game. We started playing this game when she's 10 months and at that time, all she does is point out her body parts when I say, for example, "Where's your eyes Kirstin?" This time though, she'd try to say eyes while she's pointing at her eyes. It's really pretty cool!

Other things that keeps her interested at this age is the stacking and sorting shapes toys as well as her piano, drums and tambourine sets. I always wonder what musical instrument she'll end up playing when she gets older! Her Uncle Cris plays guitar, Uncle Dane plays the drum, Aunt Barb plays the piano and Kurt plays the trumpet! Oh boy, oh boy...there's a lot to choose from! I can't wait! =)

Just for Dad: 10 Ways to be a Better Dad

Article is written by the National Fatherhood Initiative

1. Respect Your Children's Mother. One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong and vital. If you're not married, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your children. A father and mother who respect each other, and let their children know it, provide a secure environment for them. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.
2. Spend Time with Your Children. How a father spends his time tells his children what's important to him. If you always seem to busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children. Kids grow up so quickly. Missed opportunities are forever lost.
3. Earn the Right to Be Heard. All too often the only time a father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. That's why so many children cringe when their mother says, "Your father wants to talk with you." Begin talking with your kids when they are very young so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older. Take time and listen to their ideas and problems.
4. Discipline with Love. All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Fathers who discipline in a calm and fair manner show love for their children.
5. Be a Role Model. Fathers are role models to their kids whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and what to look for in a husband. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility. "All the world's a stage..." and a father plays one of the most vital roles.
6. Be a Teacher. Too many fathers think teaching is something others do. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices. Involved fathers use everyday examples to help their children learn the basic lessons of life.
7. Eat Together as a Family. Sharing a meal together (breakfast, lunch or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and want to do. It is also a good time for fathers to listen and give advice. Most importantly, it is a time for families to be together each day.
8. Read to Your Children. In a world where television often dominates the lives of children, it is important that fathers make the effort to read to their children. Children learn best by doing and reading, as well as seeing and hearing. Begin reading to your children when they are very young. When they are older encourage them to read on their own. Instilling your children with a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they will have a lifetime of personal and career growth.
9. Show Affection. Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers, need to feel both comfortable and willing to hug their children. Showing affection everyday is the best way to let your children know that you love them.
10. Realize that a Father's Job Is Never Done. Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they will still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Whether it's continued schooling, a new job or a wedding, fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.

What Worked For Me

Now that Kirstin has reached the one year mark, I looked back to some of the advice that I have gotten and that worked for me (or should I say worked for her! =D). It might worked for you too (or your babies)! So, here they are:

Ease an aching tummy
When Kirstin had a terrible gas, I can tell it by the look on her face, the way it turns red and from the sound of her cry. I have read that I should rub her belly counterclockwise and then gently push her knees back toward her ears. That was awesome because as soon as those knees went back, she was able to get rid of that gas and return to being a happy baby!

Lull an infant to sleep
When Kirstin was an infant, she likes to sleep! She would sleep and sleep and sleep all day especially when she's in my arms but she wakes up the minute I put her to her crib. I have read that placing my hand on the baby's chest after laying her down will do the trick. The warmth feels like your body, and then you can slowly pull it away. Also, I read that since their sense of smell was the strongest at this age, you shouldn't wash their beddings regularly. You wash it every 2 months so they get used to the smell and find comfort in it. Just make sure the baby did not pee on it or anything! Haha!

Soothe a teething infant
When Kirstin was teething, I had a hard time figuring out what teething ring would work for her. Some of them are hard, some has a weird texture and Kirstin wouldn't even want to bite it. A friend advised me to give her a fruit sucker! It's netted so you can put a juicy fruit inside and when she bites it, all she can get is the juice. So, it's like hitting two birds with one stone! She's getting nutrition from the fruit and at the same time, it relieves her pain from teething! But at night when she's on her crib already, you can't use this as a teether since it will be messy. The other trick I learned is to wet a washcloth corner, scrunch it into a point, and then freeze. She loves it too! She loves chewing on washcloths, and this way they're not too cold for her to hold.

And the best advice I got is...

Feel great about the job you're doing! Your baby knows only you. She's not comparing you to other moms. You are fabulous to her! As long as she's diapered, fed, cuddled, and loved, you are doing everything right!

On the Move

Yay! Finally, at 13 months, Kirstin is officially walking! It truly is like witnessing a miracle, a big one (for me and Kurt) for that matter! After all, her first steps are her first major move toward independence. But, it also means, no more multi-tasking for mommy! Can't leave a wandering baby unattended...she's often up to something!

Speaking of which, I had a friend with me one time and we were watching Kirstin playing her piano, at the same time we were making the invitation for her daughter's birthday party. When I looked at her again, I noticed that she's chewing on something. I panicked, put my finger in her mouth, and grab whatever it is she's chewing. And ola, it was one of the plastic petals that came off of her piano! Yikes! She could have choked! So, yeah, you might as well start singing the song..."Can't take my eyes off of you!"...because that's what you'll end up doing! =)

One of things she does that cracks me up is, whenever Wowowee is on or the LDD jingle is being played (shoutout to all TFC subscribers! haha!) on TV, she'll start dancing! Finally, I have a dance partner!!! =D

Look Who's One! A Look Back

Oh it was a beautiful and fun day! But a stressful day as well, I must admit! And I could think of a lot of things that didn't go as planned, I just don't want to dwell on it too much! Or Kurt will kill me! Haha! The party's over anyway and what matters most was that everybody had a good time (or so I thought! =P) There's just so much leftover though! I can just hear my mama saying, "There's a lot of hungry people out there!" I promise to do better next time, Mama! =)

Anyway, I just want to thank all those who helped me and had been part of my little girl's big day! I can't do this alone (I sounded like I just won an Academy Award! Hehe!). But really, from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much! I love you guys!

Dedication Booth: Look Who's ONE

"You'll Be In My Heart"

Come stop your crying

It will be all right

Just take my hand

Hold it tight

I will protect you from all around you

I will be here

Don't you cry

For one so small, you seem so strong

My arms will hold you, keep you safe and warm

This bond between us

Can't be broken

I will be here

Don't you cry

'Cause you'll be in my heart

Yes, you'll be in my heart

From this day on

Now and forever more

You'll be in my heart

No matter what they say

You'll be here in my heart, always

Why can't they understand the way we feel

They just don't trust what they can't explain

I know we're different but, deep inside us

We're not that different at all

And you'll be in my heart

Yes, you'll be in my heart

From this day on

Now and forever more

You'll be in my heart

No matter what they say

You'll be here in my heart, always

Don't listen to them

'Cause what do they know

We need each other, to have, to hold

They'll see in time I know

When destiny calls you

You must be strong

I may not be with you

But you've got to hold on

They'll see in time I know

We'll show them together

Just look over your shoulder

Just look over your shoulder

Just look over your shoulder

I'll be there always

Calling Independence

Here's what my wobbly, gobbly, almost-toddler is up to these days.

Can you believe it? She's turning one! Wow! And she's showing plenty of signs of wanting to be independent. She's not walking solo yet but she knows how to stand up on her own and cruise along the furniture. She crawls at lightning speed, though, if she wants to go somewhere. The nicest part of it all is that she now actively participates in on games like patty-cake and peek-a-boo and play catch and even in normal conversations! She giggles and talks gibberish which sounds really cute and really funny!

Also, feeding time is becoming less and less demanding since she's able to hold and drink from her sippy cup on her own and that she can feed herself much of her food on her plate (and some on her hair, her bib, her lap, the table and the floor! haha!).

One thing that she does that bugs me was when I change her diaper and she wiggles around! Other than that, she's very helpful particularly when I dress her up by pushing her own fist on the sleeves or stretching out her legs for her pants as I prompt her.

Kirstin's First Birthday Preparation

Wow! Time flies super fast! I can't believe she's turning one next month! Although the thought of hosting a party sends shivers down my spine and jitters in my stomach, I have a pretty good feeling that it will be fun! I first thought of a theme and since her birthday is in the summer, I thought of throwing a luau party for her! After all, we have a community pool that we can hold the party at!

The first thing I did were the invitations since I have to mail them right away. I'll just have to worry about the party details and the menu after. I thought of putting a picture of her, of course, on the front of the invitation. I decided to do a past, present and future kind-of-effect in the way I present her pictures so I chose a picture of her when she's 3 months old and then 6 months old and took a present day picture of her in her hawaiian outfit! She's not able to stand alone but I had Kurt take a picture of her standing up, while holding onto my arm. Then, I just magically cropped myself out of the picture! Haha! That was really a good trick! People thought she could stand up on her own. Hihihi! So, I really had fun doing that and I think it came out great (at least that's what I heard them say or they're just being nice to me! Hehe!) And of course, Kurt didn't want to miss out the opportunity to be part of her little girl's big day, that he decided to make a lymerick to be put on the invitation as well!

The next thing I did was download hawaiian music for the party! That also was a success! I can already see people dancing to the music including me! Haha! Then I asked my friends' advice on what menu to serve and my friends, being supportive as they always are, came up with some good suggestions that made it harder for me to choose! Boy, oh boy! Now I have a dilemma! Hahaha!

Now that everything is planned, I just have to worry about its execution! Wish me luck!

Cruisin' Baby

"I love it when we're cruisin' together!"

It's so amazing how babies become mobile increasingly each day and Kirstin is ought to explore and test her boundaries (as well as mine!). It's an incredible milestone when she started crawling - her first sign of independence! She progress from sitting and crawling to standing and cruising (while holding on to a furniture). It's really quite a development at this stage! It makes me feel like I'm witnessing small miracles happen!

Aside from this, Kirstin is into fine-tuning the other aspect of her motor skills. She practices picking up small items like her favorite cheerios by gripping it between her thumb and forefinger. She also tries to put her blocks with holes in it to a ring.

To top it all, her language skills continue to develop quickly, too. She points or use other meaningful gestures, such as sign language or waving bye-bye or blowing kisses. She's able to say — and really mean! — "Mama" or "Dada" now, and to understand simple instructions: "Show me your tummy" or "Come to mommy." Her first word, I thought, was Mama but her daddy said it was Dada! I guess we'll just leave it as Baba (her term for bottle)! Lol! But she may also hear and comprehend — and then choose to ignore you! (Sort of like nature's way of preparing you when she becomes a teenager!)

I read though from baby articles that this is very common, that she's not deliberately being naughty; she's just constantly pushing buttons, trying to determine where the limits are and see what your reaction is - whether it makes you mad, sad, or happy!

Here's what experts say on how parents should deal about this:

It's time to introduce some basic discipline into her life. She's now old enough to remember what you say and do (any earlier than this and your rules would be forgotten almost as soon as they left your lips). Experiment to see how firm a tone your baby needs and how best she responds: A gentle "No, no" followed by distraction with a toy or song? Or a more forceful "No, dangerous!" along with physical removal from the potted plant or electric outlet she's intent on exploring?
Consistency, follow-through, and the presence of some kind of limits are more important than the specific rules or methods you choose to use. (Again, that's true for teenagers too!) While your baby may seem young for discipline and structure, remember that you are helping her learn to stay safe, as well as laying the foundation for self-control, good manners, and an innate sense of right versus wrong. In other words, you're building a good little citizen! But remember that if your baby hears no too often, the word will become less effective. Save it for the most important battles; for lesser ones, allow your baby as much choice as you possibly can, and look for alternative ways to redirect her: "That's not safe for babies, but you can play with this instead."

Picnic at Kah-nee-ta

Kah-nee-ta is known as a high desert resort and casino. The wide open spaces of Kah-Nee-Ta create a bountiful mecca for recreation. Natural hot springs pour into their pools, and the Warm Springs River follows the canyon floor to create a spectacular water world that's ideal for kayaking. Roam where the natives once did among the rugged landscape by foot or horse. The key ingredient to any vacation spot is a place that offers pleasure and relaxation. Kah-Nee-Ta provides visitors a place to enjoy the quiet and immerse themselves in a variety of activities at the same time. Whether seeking an active day in the sun playing golf, volleyball or tennis, or just relaxing with a book by the pool, visitors can choose from any array of activities offered at the resort.

It's the first time we went out as a family and I really had a blast! Seeing her so amused by nature and the world around her made me appreciate the simple pleasures of life! Having our friends share that experience with us made it even more wonderful! Thanks to the Bergman and Bleuler family for inviting us!

Kirstin's Personal Milestones (6-9 months)

Look what I can do now!

Kirstin is becoming more and more active and playful!





Physical

She's able to sit and move around on her own.
She picks up things and bangs and shakes them.
She uses both hands to hold objects.
She puts everything she can hold into her mouth to chew.
She likes to jump and kick with the help of her jumperoo!

Mental

She is responding to her name and identifies her mommy and daddy as her primary caregiver.
She looks for toys that are hidden or out of view.
She begins to move towards the toy she wants rather than wait for us to hand it to her.

Language

She still cries to communicate her needs.
She puts sounds together to express her opinion: babbling, cooing, etc.
She enjoys familiar finger plays and listen intently to songs.
She begins to understand the names of favorite people or places
She says "Baba" or "Dada" and copies my expression "Uh-oh"

Social

She begins to shy away with strangers.
She squeals most of the time but frowns and turns away when she's not pleased with what's going on (very rarely though that she does this).

By the way, happy mother's day to me!!! =)

Our Journey to the Philippines

I had mixed emotions while I was over there! I enjoyed the company of my family and friends in the Philippines but I sure missed Kurt! I was also concerned about Kirstin the entire time we were there. Was the weather too hot for her? Was she enjoying this as much as I do or was she sad that daddy is not around and she's surrounded by unfamiliar faces speaking unfamiliar sounds? Did I put enough sunscreen on her? Will I be able to survive another long flight with her alone? But, my mother and my sister-in-law assured me that everything was fine and that I should take a break. I must admit that it sure felt nice to be away from responsibilities once in a while.

While in the Philippines, I planned to do a lot of shopping but I ended up only buying one shirt and one sandals for myself. Though I spent almost the entire day looking for an outfit. My theory is, being a Libra and the no return, no exchange policy that is subtly implemented in the stores in the Philippines are not a good mix! I know I have a tendency to change my mind and knowing that I will have a hard time returning the things I bought if I changed my mind turned me off! I got so used to the lifestyle in the US where you can return things even without a receipt. Not sure if that's good or bad but it sure didn't help me while I was over there shopping!

I sure had great time at the beach and had great time swimming at the pool and singing till the crack of dawn with Thomson people! Things were crazy as always! Going to the beach is something that I could not do as much as I wanted to here in the US. Aside from the fact that the coast is a 2-hour trip from where we live, the water is really cold even in the summer so that makes the trip seemed not worth it.

It was also a good Holy Week experience for me since I was able to really reflect on it. I was able to go to Church, watch Sinakulo and pray to my heart's content. Whereas in the US, Holy Week is not being observed at all so that was a good going-back-to-the-tradition kind of thing for me.

Though I certainly had fun on my short visit, I realized when the plane landed at the Portland Airport and I saw Kurt coming to welcome us, that this is where my heart is now. And it felt good to be home!

You may ask how Kirstin did in the airplane? She's a trooper! She hardly cried and mostly slept all the way there and back!

Air Travel With Infants: Is it Safe?

Me and Kirstin are going home to see my family back in the Philippines in the coming week. I am so excited but at the same time, anxious as to how I'm going to handle Kirstin and how she's going to behave in what is sure to seem like an endless flight.

I tried to prepare myself for the long journey by practicing at home - holding my carry-on in one arm and holding her in the other, converting the car seat into stroller while I carry her (luckily, I bought those 2-in-1 car seat/stroller combo that you convert just by pulling or pushing a handle) and using the bathroom while holding her. Man! It was tough! But at least I have a pretty good idea on what to expect. It's just a matter of her cooperating with me actually. I just hope she wouldn't cry!

My carry-on bag included bottled water, formula, feeding bottles, spoon, diapers and wipes, extra clothes, a book and a rattle toy. It's so bulky! And then, I began to ask, is it safe for babies to travel on an airplane? Here's what I found out:

Air travel is safe for infants, even newborns. However, a doctor may advise against unnecessary air travel during the first two weeks of life - when your baby's body is still adjusting to life outside the uterus. Air travel exposes an infant to lots of people and their germs, especially in recirculated cabin air. Also, you don't want to travel if your baby is ill, and evidence of illness in newborns may be subtle.

Other concerns parents may have about flying with a newborn:

• Ear pain. Many parents worry that air travel will hurt a newborn's ears. But the effects of flying on a newborn's ears are no different than for an adult's ears. Fluctuations in cabin pressure cause temporary changes in the middle ear, which can result in pain. Sucking helps equalize the pressure in the ears. So feeding your baby during takeoff and landing may help.
• Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Some parents may be concerned that reduced oxygen levels at high altitudes increases the risk of SIDS in newborns. But there is no evidence that this is true.
• Travel safety. When you travel on an airplane with a newborn, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that you place the child in a rear-facing child safety seat that's properly installed and secured in the seat next to yours. Most child safety seats are certified for air travel. Check the label if you're not sure. According to the Federal Aviation Administration, child safety seats shouldn't be wider than 16 inches for the best fit in aircraft seats - especially in smaller commuter aircraft. If you can, choose a bulkhead seat and avoid being seated in emergency exit rows.
  

Soothe your baby

"A crying baby is the best form of birth control. " ~Carole Tabron

The average newborn cries for more than two hours each day. While crying is a normal part of infancy, how can you keep your sanity and calm your baby when she cries (and cries, and cries)?

I remember having a conversation with my mom asking her, "When is she going to stop crying?" My mom laughed at me saying "Do you not cry anymore?" "But that's different", I argued. My mom replied, "It's part of existence! You'll just have to try and be creative on how you sooth her. Then pretty soon you'll get used to it and you'll just laugh it all off!"

It's just hard for me to listen to Kirstin crying especially when nothing I do seemed to sooth her. I feel worried. What if there's something wrong and I totally miss it!

So here's some tips on how to soothe your baby:
Content provided by MayoClinic.com

The dream: Your baby sleeps through the night after just a few weeks, gurgles happily while you run errands and only fusses when hunger strikes.

The reality: Your baby's favorite playtime is after the 2 a.m. feeding. Crankiness peaks when you're out and about. You had no idea a baby could cry this much.

Sound familiar?

In any given day, the average newborn cries for more than two hours. Find out why babies cry - and how to cope with the tears.

Decoding the tears

Newborn crying jags are inevitable. Your job is to figure out why your baby is crying and what - if anything - you can do about it. Consider what your baby may be thinking:

• I'm hungry. Most newborns eat every few hours around the clock. Some babies become frantic when hunger strikes. They may get so worked up by the time the feeding begins that they gulp air with the milk, which may cause spitting up, trapped gas or more crying. To avoid such frenzy, respond to early signs of hunger. If your baby begins to gulp during the feeding, take a break.
• I need to burp. During and after each feeding, take time to burp your baby. But don't stop there. Your baby may need to burp between feedings as well.
  I pooped. For some babies, a wet or soiled diaper is a surefire way to trigger tears. Gas or indigestion may have the same effect. Check your baby's diaper often to make sure it's clean and dry.
• I'm tired. Tired babies are often fussy. Make sure your baby is getting enough sleep. For newborns, this often means up to 16 hours - or even more - every day.
  I'd rather be bundled. Some babies feel most secure in a swaddle wrap. Snugly wrap your baby in a receiving blanket or other small, lightweight blanket.
• I want to move. Sometimes a rocking session or walk through the house is enough to soothe a crying baby. In other cases, a change of position is all that's needed. Keeping safety precautions in mind, try a baby swing or vibrating infant seat. Weather permitting, head outdoors with the stroller. You may even want to buckle up for a ride in the car.
  I'm lonely. Sometimes simply seeing you, hearing your voice or being cuddled may stop the tears. Gentle massage or light pats on the back may work, too. (I've read that some parents put their baby on a car seat and put it on top of the washing machine while they wash clothes at the same time! Now that's being resourceful!)
• I'm hot. A baby who's too hot or cold is likely to be uncomfortable. Add or remove a layer of your baby's clothing as needed.
• I want to suck on something. Sucking is a natural reflex. For many babies, it's a comforting, soothing activity. If your baby isn't hungry, try a clean finger or pacifier.
  I've had enough. Too much noise, movement or visual stimulation may drive your baby to tears. Move to a calmer environment or place your baby in the crib. White noise - such as a recording of ocean waves or the monotonous sound of an electric fan or vacuum cleaner - may help your baby relax. (This is what Kirstin does so fondly!)
• It's just that time of day. Many babies have predictable periods of fussiness during the day. There may be little you can do but comfort your baby as the crying runs its course.
  My tummy hurts. If you're breast-feeding your baby, he or she may be fussier than usual after you eat spicy or gas-producing foods. Too much caffeine may be an issue as well. If you suspect a certain food is causing trouble, avoid it for several days to see if it makes a difference.

Is it just fussiness, or is it colic?

Some babies have frustrating periods of intense, inconsolable crying known as colic. Colic is often defined as crying more than three hours a day, three days a week for more than three weeks in an otherwise well-fed, healthy baby. Colic episodes are most common in the late afternoon or evening. The crying often begins suddenly and for no apparent reason. During an episode, your baby may be difficult - or even impossible - to comfort.

What causes colic remains a mystery. If you're concerned about colic, consult your baby's doctor. He or she can make sure your baby is otherwise healthy and help you learn how to care for a colicky baby.

Taking care of yourself

It's tough to listen to your baby cry (especially when nothing you do seemed to soothe your baby). To take the best care of your baby, it's important to take care of yourself, too.

• Take a break. When you've done what you can, ask your spouse or another loved one to take over for a while. Take advantage of baby-sitting offers from friends or neighbors. Even an hour on your own can help renew your coping strength.
• Make healthy lifestyle choices. Eat healthy foods. Make time for exercise, such as a brisk daily walk. If you can, sleep when the baby sleeps - even during the day. Avoid alcohol and other drugs.
• Remember that it's temporary. Crying spells often peak at about six weeks and then gradually decrease.
• Know when to call the doctor. If you're concerned about the crying or your baby isn't eating, sleeping or behaving like usual, call your baby's doctor. He or she can help you tell the difference between normal tears and something more serious.
• It's also important to recognize your limits. If your baby's crying is causing you to lose control, put the baby in a safe place - such as a crib - and go to another room to collect yourself. If necessary, contact your doctor, a local crisis intervention service or a mental health help line for additional support.

Kirstin's Personal Milestones (3-6 months)

Now what are you up to?



Kirstin sleeps for good 8 hours at night before waking up (and takes 3 naps a day for a total of 14 to 17 hours of sleep)


THE 4th MONTH


Physical

• She's able to sit with support


• Lifts head up 90 degrees when lying on stomach


• Pays attention to small objects held in front of her face


• Grasp a rattle or toy


• Bear weight on both legs when we try to stand her up on our laps

Mental

• Pays attention to small object held in front of her face
  
• Responds to all colors and shapes


• Explores object with her mouth


• Reach out for objects


• Responds to music and likes Mozart!

Language

• She babbles and amuses self with new noises.

Social

• Turns her face in our direction when she hears us talk

THE 5th MONTH

Physical

• Rolls over from tummy to back


• Hold head level to body when pulled to sit


• Plays with her hand and feet

Mental

• She seemed to recognize her own name


• Distinguishes between bold colors

Language

• Repeat sounds like ma-ma-ma or da-da-da

Social

• She gets upset if you take a toy from her

• Makes funny faces

THE 6th MONTH

Physical

• Roll back in forth in both directions


• Sits momentarily without support


• Feed herself with crackers


• Holds her bottle

Mental

• Imitates sound and facial expressions


• Works at getting a toy that's out of reach


• She picks up small objects with her fingers

Language

• She begins to jabber and babble

Social

• She begins to have stranger and separation anxiety

Introducing Solid Foods

Wow! How time flies! Now she's ready to have solid foods! We started with rice cereal and banana and oh, how much she loves that! She did not eat a lot at first but once she got used to the experience, she cleans up her plate and Nanay can attest to that! :)


Here are some tips to know when your baby is ready (from baby.com):

• Head control. To eat solids, your baby needs to be able to keep his head in a steady, upright position.


• Losing the "extrusion reflex." To keep solids in his mouth and then swallow them, your baby needs to stop using his tongue to push food out of his mouth.


• Sitting well when supported. Even if he's not quite ready for a highchair, your baby will need to be able to sit upright to swallow well.


• Chewing motions. Your baby's mouth and tongue develop in sync with his digestive system. To start solids, he should be able to move food to the back of his mouth and swallow. As he learns to swallow efficiently, you may notice less drooling. He may also be teething around the same time. (To aid in both teething and developing her chewing ability, we give her fruit in a mesh bag that she can hold on and gnaw on without having to worry that she would bite the fruit and choke herself. Thanks to Cristy for introducing this product to us!)


• Significant weight gain. Most babies are ready to eat solids when they've doubled their birth weight (or weigh about 15 pounds) and are at least 4 months old.


• Growing appetite. He seems hungry after eight to ten feedings of breast milk or formula in a day.


• Curiosity about what you're eating. Your baby may begin eyeing your bowl of rice or reaching for a forkful of fettuccini as it travels from your plate to your mouth.

How should I go about introducing solid food?

A good rule of thumb is to start with rice cereal, which is gluten-free and less allergenic than other foods. First nurse or bottle-feed your baby. Then give him one or two teaspoons of dry cereal mixed with enough formula or breast milk to make a semi-liquid. Use a rubber-tipped spoon when you feed your baby, to avoid injuring his gums. Start with just a small amount on the tip of the spoon.

If your baby doesn't seem very interested in eating off the spoon, let him smell and taste the cereal or wait until he warms up to the idea of eating something solid. Don't add solid food to your baby's bottle or he may not make the connection that food is to be eaten sitting up and from a spoon.

Begin with a once-a-day feeding, whenever it's convenient for you. Your baby may not eat much at all in the beginning, but give him time to get used to the experience. Some babies need practice keeping food in their mouths and swallowing. Once he gets used to his new diet, he'll be ready for a few tablespoons of cereal a day. As the amount he eats increases, gradually thicken the consistency of the cereal and add another feeding. Your baby should be able to eat about a half-cup of cereal a day before you add other solid foods.

Do I still need to give my baby breast milk or formula?

Yes, your baby will need breast milk or formula until he's a year old. Both provide important vitamins, iron, and protein in an easy-to-digest form. Solid food can't replace all the nutrients that breast milk or formula provides during that first year.

How should I introduce other solid food?

Introduce other solids gradually, one at a time, waiting at least three days after each new food. This way you'll get a heads-up if your baby has an allergic reaction to one of them (signs of an allergy may include diarrhea, a bloated tummy, increased gas, or a rash). If there's a family history of allergies, or your baby develops an allergic reaction during this process, start waiting up to a week between new foods.

Even though it's a good idea to get your baby accustomed to eating a wide variety of foods, it'll take time for him to get used to each new taste and texture. Each baby will have unique food preferences, but the transition should go something like this:

1. Semi-liquid cereals

2. Strained or mashed fruits and vegetables

3. Finely chopped table foods, including meat and other protein sources

When your baby has mastered cereal, offer a few tablespoons of vegetables or fruit in the same meal as a cereal feeding. Good foods to start with include sweet potatoes, squash, applesauce, bananas, carrots, oatmeal, peaches, and pears. All food should be strained or mushy — at this stage your baby will press the food against the top of his mouth and then swallow.

If you're feeding your baby from ready-to-eat jars of baby food, scoop some into a little dish and feed him from that.If you dip his feeding spoon into the jar, you won't be able to save the leftovers because you'll have introduced bacteria from his mouth into the jar. Also, throw away any baby food jars within a day or two of opening them.

Some experts recommend introducing yellow fruits and vegetables first because they're easiest to digest, but others advise going green from the start so your baby doesn't develop a preference for the sweeter taste of the yellow foods. It's up to you which route to take. Either way, don't leave any food off his menu simply because you don't like it. And stay away from foods that might cause an allergic reaction early on, and foods that might cause him to choke.

If your baby turns away from a particular food, don't push. Try again in a week or so. He may never like sweet potatoes, or he may change his mind several times and end up loving them.

Don't be surprised if your baby's stools change color and odor when you add solids to his diet. If your baby has been exclusively breastfed up to this point, you'll probably notice a strong odor to his formerly sweet-smelling stools as soon as he starts eating even tiny amounts of solids. This is normal. If his stools seem too firm (rice cereal, bananas, and applesauce can contribute to constipation), switch to other fruits and vegetables and oatmeal or barley cereal.

How many times a day should my baby be eating solid food?

At first he'll eat semi-liquid cereal mix just once a day. By around 8 months he should be eating solid food three times a day. A typical day's diet at this point might consist of:

• Breast milk or iron-fortified formula

• Iron-fortified cereal

• Yellow and green vegetables

• Fruit

• Small amounts of protein such as poultry, cottage cheese, tofu, and meat

There are certain foods that you shouldn't give your baby yet. Honey, for example, can cause botulism in babies under a year old. And commonly allergenic foods such as peanut butter, cow's milk, shellfish, citrus (including juices), and egg whites should also be avoided for a year or more, depending on how careful you want to be about potential allergies. (For more details, see "Foods That Can Be Unsafe for Your Baby.")

Do I need any special equipment?

Just a highchair and a rubber-tipped spoon to protect your baby's sensitive gums. As your baby starts eating more you may find that a bib, a plastic dish with a suction bottom, and a splat mat on the floor can help keep messes to a minimum.

Where should I feed my baby?

To establish good eating habits — like eating at the table instead of in front of the television — it's a good idea to feed your baby in his highchair whenever you can. Handing him finger foods on the run can also cause him to choke (not to mention trail mashed banana across the carpet). If your baby isn't ready for a highchair, seat him in your lap. Just make sure that he's upright enough to swallow well.

How can I help my child develop healthy eating habits?

• Don't overfeed your baby. Watch for cues that he's full.
• Don't try to make your child eat food he doesn't like. Respect his preferences and avoid power struggles over food.
• Try to provide a balance of protein, carbohydrates, fruits, and vegetables. Use sweets, salts, and fats in moderation.
• Avoid fast food for as long as possible.
• Don't bribe or reward your child with food. Instead, offer plenty of hugs, kisses, and attention.
• Feed your baby in his highchair whenever possible, rather than in front of the television or on the go.

Infant Massage

Like every new parent, we want the best for our baby. Since I don't have my mother with me to give me advice, I relied on books, magazines and the internet on what's best for my baby. After all, they should be the experts in this field. Although, one could argue that mother knows best still. So, to avoid that conflict, I feel that I should do my homework but have the last word on it all. I filter what I read and apply only those ideas that I think, as far as my logic and my busy schedule allows, is feasible and that she likes. (you bet she tells me if she likes it or not! hehe!) And infant massage is one of them! So, here is a guide to infant massage from baby.com:

A Guide to Infant Massage
Research shows that massage can relax babies, improve their sleep patterns, and calm them when they are irritable. Infant massage should last about 15 minutes. Don't worry if you have only five or ten minutes: even a short massage is good for your baby. Choose a warm, quiet room and play background music if you like. (I usually do it at night before she goes to bed and so I always play lullaby music or just sing to her lullaby songs after all I have a good voice! Hahaha!)

Using a lotion or oil will help reduce friction and make the massage more soothing. Make sure you use a product that is gentle enough for your infant's skin.

Start with your baby lying on his stomach. Then gently rub your hands (make sure they're warm) back and forth six times on each of the following areas for about one minute in each area:

1. From the top of your baby's head to his neck

2. From his neck across his shoulders

3. From his upper back to his waist

4. From his thigh to his foot and back to his thigh, on each leg

5. From his shoulder to his hand and back to his shoulder, on each arm

Now turn your baby over onto his back so that he is facing you. Move each of his arms gently, flexing it and then straightening it. Exercise each arm and each leg in this way, and then both legs, as if he were pedaling a tiny bicycle, for a total of five minutes.To finish your baby's massage, turn him back on his stomach and repeat the first sequence.

Throughout the massage, remember to be sensitive and responsive to your baby. Learn to recognize when your baby tells you that he's not interested or that he's had enough. Your baby might do the following to tell you he would rather be doing something else:

• turn his head away
  
• "crunch up" his forehead
  
• suck in his cheeks
  
• grimace
  
• fuss
  
• cry

As you give your baby more massages, you'll gradually find a routine that works best for both of you. And with all your love and attention focused on him, you and your baby will be truly in touch.

Happy New Year 2006

Never end a wish without whispering
"I believe..."
...and make the new year
your dream come true year.

A New Year calls for the celebration of everything that has happened, of the places that have been visited, of the people that have touched you and of the memories that have been created. Looking back, it was a great year for us. And looking at the little angel sleeping in the crib will attest to that. Looking forward, we will certainly feel that a miracle is happening everyday in our lives.